“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter won't mind” -Dr. Seuss. As a growing teenager, many adults tell you to just “Be yourself”, automatically expecting you to follow their advice as if it were that easy; as if the pressures asserted by your peers should not phase you at all. Rather than showing others who you truly are, you find that it is much easier to create another persona, one that would please everyone and make them happy. But on the process of making this entirely different person, you are distancing away from who you truly are. Nobody sees your true self aside from you, because you fear that you will not have anyone by your side if you show even just a glimpse of your perspectives in life. However, if we live our life trying to please everyone else, people produce a high range of expectations that we feel obligated to fulfill. And when we fail to succeed in achieving what is expected of us, it causes us to fall into a deeper self-resentment, enlarging the fear of showing others our true selves. Despite that sense of obligation we feel when expectations are flooded on us, in reality, we have no obligation to fulfill these presumptions that is inflicted upon us. This is why I think it is very important to be yourself, and make decisions based off of what will make YOU happy, because living a life set upon making everybody else happy can only prevent us from being happy ourselves.
After freshmen orientation, I made it a priority to become really good friends with the people that I had just met. It was my high school goal--nothing was going to get in the way of it--even if it meant that I would branch off from really good friends from middle school. Even if it meant hiding who I really was and putting up a different personality than what I had before. I had to make a good impression, after all. Freshmen year started with a bang; I was meeting new people, and my surfaced personality only brought more and more people into my life. I made more and more friends, but none of them really knew who I was inside. Those who grew closer to me got to know the side that I have been hiding, and they did not mind at all. And as the year progressed, my true colors started to show—not that they were terrible—and I became happier with my life, but I seemed to have failed most people’s given perception of me. There was this group of girls, girls that I was never particularly close to, but hung around the same area that I did. At the time, my friend Janette was one of their best friends. She notified me of the trash talking going on behind my back, and as I clearly remember, they referred to me as a “wild child”, and a “bad influence” for being carefree and living life to the fullest. Extremely angered by these assumptions of me, I realized that I spent most of my time pleasing these people—very unhappy along the process—and when I acted upon my happiness, it only seemed to disappoint them. These girls were not my friends. And anyone who did not accept me for ME, is not worth being “friends” with. I failed to see that I did not need more people in my life; all I needed were those who were already there, and these people? They have—and still do—love me for who I really am.
Although lots of times it is really frightening to show the world who you really are, just know that there will always be people who will stand by you for YOU. Through every fight, success, failure, obstacles, and whatever else the world offers, the only people you will need in your life are true friends. They are the people who will never ask you to change for them, or to put up a fake personality in order to please everyone else. They are the people who will help you get up when you fall, and will applaud at the sight of you reaching for the stars. They are the people who will show you that being yourself is the greatest you will ever be, and that you do not need to be anybody else. They will love you for who you are. And as AndrĂ© Gide profoundly states, “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
